I Have A Friend Who Says We’re Friends, But She Doesn’t Value My Time

“I haven’t even seen you for half of the year!” Kate yells on the other line of the phone.

“Two things:  One, stop yelling at me.  If you’re going to keep yelling at me, I will hang up,” Rebeca says.  “And two, maybe the reason why you haven’t seen me for six months is because you never ask me to hang out or anything anymore.”

“So, what?  I’m supposed to always ask you to hang out?” Kate asks.

“No.  But remember all the times I used to ask you to eat out because we hadn’t seen each other for a while or when I would ask if you wanted to go ice skating or when I wanted to FaceTime you?  What did you say then, huh?”

Kate, for a few seconds, is silent.

Rebeca looks at her phone to make sure the call hasn’t disconnected.

“After a while, it gets tiring constantly asking someone if they want to hang out, but they’re always blowing you off,” Rebeca says.  “And now you know how I feel.”

“Is this payback or something?”

“No.  I just don’t want to waste my time with someone who clearly never really valued me.”  Rebeca pauses.  “I think we should end our friendship.”

“I think you’re wrong.”

Rebeca sighs.  “I’m not going to keep having this conversation with you.  I have work I gotta do, and I have to reply to people who actually value my time.  I’m going to hang up now.  Please don’t contact me again.  Goodbye, Kate.”“I haven’t even seen you for half of the year!” Kate yells on the other line of the phone.

“Two things:  One, stop yelling at me.  If you’re going to keep yelling at me, I will hang up,” Rebeca says.  “And two, maybe the reason why you haven’t seen me for six months is because you never ask me to hang out or anything anymore.”

“So, what?  I’m supposed to always ask you to hang out?” Kate asks.

“No.  But remember all the times I used to ask you to eat out because we hadn’t seen each other for a while or when I would ask if you wanted to go ice skating or when I wanted to FaceTime you?  What did you say then, huh?”

Kate, for a few seconds, is silent.

Rebeca looks at her phone to make sure the call hasn’t disconnected.

“After a while, it gets tiring constantly asking someone if they want to hang out, but they’re always blowing you off,” Rebeca says.  “And now you know how I feel.”

“Is this payback or something?”

“No.  I just don’t want to waste my time with someone who clearly never really valued me.”  Rebeca pauses.  “I think we should end our friendship.”

“I think you’re wrong.”

Rebeca sighs.  “I’m not going to keep having this conversation with you.  I have work I gotta do, and I have to reply to people who actually value my time.  I’m going to hang up now.  Please don’t contact me again.  Goodbye, Kate.”

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